The shooting at Stoneman Douglas High School in Parkland, Florida is not only heartbreaking for those students involved and their families, it is also a reminder of how unfair life can be and how much we should cherish the time we have with our family and friends. Obviously, these tragedies affect our entire country, but I also want to reach out to those struggling with Harm OCD right now.
When I was going through OCD, some of the most terrifying and isolating times were when there were news stories about people doing horrible things, especially those involving mothers and their children, but my mind ran wild and rampant with any sort of violent story.
When I heard stories about abuse, neglect, homicide, literally anything involving harm, I would become overwhelmed with dread that one day that would be me. My OCD was so strong, that I felt there would never be any way out. I would never heal. It was the most confusing thing I had ever experienced, because my only fear was ME, and I would never hurt my kids or myself, yet I felt like it would kill me.
It would somehow take my life. Any interpretation, no matter how far-fetched, that could be made in which, for example, my children were not okay, was unacceptable. Let me give you an example. No unwanted, scary interpretation possible. You see, I thought like that.
I would constantly look for similarities between myself and whoever was doing awful things instead of recognizing our polarizing differences. My mind was betraying me, every second of every day. My brain was breaking my heart over and over again. There are also many people without mental illnesses who make unthinkable choices.
Unfortunately, we cannot always answer why people do what they do. OCD is tied to anxiety. Anxiety takes what you care about most and twists it into a worst-case scenario. In my case, I cared so much about my newborn that the second that my brain felt like he was being threatened by meit went into overdrive to try to figure out why and began to steadily raise my anxiety in order to keep the baby safe.
As long as my anxiety was high, Easton could stay safe. OCD put those fears on repeat. If I wanted them, I must agree with them, and if I agree with them, I must be capable of acting on them. None of this, however, was true. Underneath it all, OCD was about the obsession of protecting my kids.
However, there was never and will never be a meaning. I thought something weird and horrible. It was a weird thought and I became obsessed with it. I really feel for people suffering with Harm OCD right now.
It is the worst feeling in the world to see your biggest fears plastered all over the TV and internet. The fact that, this time, kids are involved probably makes it hit even closer to home. My biggest advice right now, however, would be to look for the differences, not the similarities between yourself and whoever is worrying you. One of my most intrusive thoughts happened after every time my therapist would reassure me that I was okay and my kids would be safe.
What if I prove everyone wrong and hurt someone?Through these sneaky lies, OCD pretends to be a helpful friend who wants to keep us safe.
But really, it only manipulates us into doing more and more rituals. Delaying a ritual and sitting with the anxiety is actually what gives me feelings of safety and control. Doing a ritual decreases anxiety, which feels really good in the moment, but the relief is only temporary.
When the obsession pops up again, we have to do the ritual more and more for our anxiety to go away. With every exposure we do, our anxiety comes down faster. All anxiety will come down eventually. It might soon go back up again, then down, then up, etc.
I pinky promise. We feel responsible for our weird thoughts and feel like dangerous people. This lie is simply not true; thoughts are just thoughts. When my OCD tells me my thoughts are dangerous, it also tells me to keep them a secret.
It also makes it harder to get help. Tired yet? A common way to demonstrate this phenomenon is the pink elephant experiment. Try it yourself here! What about when you take the risk or do an exposure, and the bad thing does happen?
I also underestimate my ability to cope with something bad. The only way to feel free then is to embrace uncertainty. The Mighty is asking the following: Create a list-style story of your choice in regards to disability, disease or illness. It can be lighthearted and funny or more serious — whatever inspires you.Hope it helps. It helps us reach more people who need to hear these remarkable stories of recovery!
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Obsessive-compulsive disorder OCD is an anxiety disorder which feeds on doubt. I have lived with OCD for several years, but was only recently diagnosed. Since being diagnosed, I have come to learn my experience and symptoms of OCD can be categorized across a few different subtypes.
The reason I was not diagnosed for so long is because my most severely presenting subtypes are less visible than some other OCD variations.
Most obsessions in OCD relate to a fear something may happen in the future. In these cases, your mind convinces you that if you perform a compulsion, you will prevent this event from occurring.
Real event OCD can be insidious because along with anxious thoughts and feelings, it also presents with pervasive feelings of guilt and shame about something which you did in the past.
When these intrusive memories come up, you feel a gut-punching sensation of intense guilt. What makes real event OCD different to natural feelings of guilt for performing a harmful act is that the past event does not warrant these extreme guilty thoughts and feelings.
Intrusive memories can hit me at several points during the day. Confession is a common compulsion which can appear in many subtypes of OCD.
Seeking reassurance is the sustenance that keeps OCD aliveand to starve it is to kill it slowly but surely. But this is impossible, unrealistic and most of all unfair. I have done some things that may cause the average person, if they had done the same, to feel a bit ashamed. But the feelings of shame that these memories conjure up in my mind and body is an inappropriately harsh reaction, like my mind is a judge condemning me to prison for life for a misdemeanor.
I, like everyone else with real event OCDdeserve better than to be my own constant judge, jury and executioner. If you relate to this, my wish for you is that you can also begin to get the help you need. If nothing else, I hope you no longer f eel alone in this experience.
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Join Us. You can also browse from over health conditions. Submit a Story. Join Us Log In. Editor's Note If you struggle with obsessive-compulsive disorder OCDthe following post could be potentially triggering. We want to hear your story.The anxiety and shame started when Diance was She was sitting in a pew at her church, where she is active in the ministry.
It seemed to come out of nowhere. She felt as if she were going to jump out of her skin. But she knows what she saw when the feeling overwhelmed her: a nearby woman wearing a v-neck sweater.
For years after that episode, Diance, a health care professional from Maryland, was unable to look at people wearing v-neck sweaters or other potentially revealing clothes for fear she was sinning. When people sat down across from her and crossed their legs, she thought it was because she had been looking at their genitals.
Diance suffers from scrupulosity, a type of obsessive-compulsive disorder OCD. People with scrupulosity suffer from persistent, irrational thoughts about not being devout or moral enough, and believing that these thoughts are sinful and disappoint God.
And like the 2. People would flock around me but I would only let them get so close. Sometimes we would get upset. Everyone would get together and cook and wash the dishes, and we wondered why she never helped out, why she was always tired. Diance was diagnosed with OCD at age 35 — 10 years after her first anxiety attack and five years after her first therapy session.
She was not immediately diagnosed with OCD because symptoms of her depression overwhelmed symptoms of the anxiety disorder. After her suicide attempt, Diance started seeing a psychiatrist who specializes in anxiety disorders and saw real progress.
Diance shared what she learned during regular phone conversations with her sister, even recommending books so Penny could read about OCD. Her brother, Tyrone, a minister, even sat in on some therapy sessions so he, too, could understand OCD and show his support.
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For example, Dr. Diance became more willing to test new ideas like these, Dr. Lewis said, and she forced herself to talk to people, particularly people wearing low-cut shirts, and not use her safety behaviors, like holding up a cup of water to block her view of the person.
This kind of treatment breaks the reinforcement cycle of using compulsions to relieve obsessive thoughts and actions, said Michelle G. While she calls her recovery from OCD an ongoing process, she happily reports that she now socializes with friends and family again and is even ready to start dating.
He worked full-time as a janitor and engaged in a very few activities outside of work. When asked about anxiety, Allen said he was worried about contracting diseases such as HIV. Aware of a strong disinfectant smell, the mental health care provider asked Allen if he had any special cleaning behaviors linked to his concern about getting HIV. Allen said that he avoided touching almost anything outside of his home. He said that if he even came close to things that he thought might have been in contact with the virus, he had to wash his hands many times with bleach.
He often washed his hands up to 30 times a day, spending hours on this routine. Physical contact was quite difficult. Shopping for groceries and taking the subway were big problems, and he had almost given up trying to go to social events or engage in romantic relationships. When asked if he had other worries, Allen said that he was bothered by sudden images of hitting someone, fears that he would say things that might be offensive or wrong, and concerns about upsetting his neighbors.
To ease the anxiety caused by these thoughts, he often replayed prior conversations in his mind, kept diaries to record what he said and often apologized for fear he might have sounded offensive. When he showered, he made sure the water in the tub only reached a certain level.
He was afraid that if he was not careful, he would flood his neighbors. Allen used gloves at work and performed well. He spent most of his free time at home. Allen was diagnosed with OCD. He had many obsessions, including ones related to contamination fear of contracting HIVaggressions intrusive image of hitting someone and symmetry exactness in the level of water.
These caused Allen to spend hours on his OCD routines and to avoid leaving his apartment, engaging in social relationships and performing basic errands. He also has had many compulsions: excessive hand washing, a checking keeping diariesrepeating often clarifying what he said and mental compulsions replaying prior conversations in his mind.
Even though he was able to work, his job choice may have been swayed by his symptoms few other jobs would allow him to always wear gloves and use bleach. Not only did his symptoms consume much of his time, but he appeared to be lonely, isolated man whose quality of life had been greatly affected by his OCD.
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